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Loved this!! I so understand the projection of characteristics with the intensity that is not consistent with the what is seen is exactly what one is unable to acknowledge in oneself. For example, what makes me crazy is arrogance. I have learned, as a result, that arrogance is that part of my shadow side that I most dislike. I feel like I’m constantly working with it - to be aware of when I’m triggered. I recall being at a seminar where Scott Peck was speaking. He, a psychiatrist, authored “People of the Lie.” He said that he kept his “shadow side” in a kind of cell and he goes to visit it on occasion. When I heard him say that, I was frankly horrified. I looked around the room and every one of the professionals who had come to hear him speak, were all smiling and nodding. What he obviously did not understand about the shadow side is that the instant we think we have a “handle” on it, it’s gonna blindside us every time. In my senior field placement, my field instructor had a book “Meeting The Shadow.” It’s been out of print for a long while. I got a copy and began reading. I think it took me about a year to get through it - I was processing the information throughout that time. I recall one chapter in the beginning in which the authors were discussing this projection as a result of what we have in the shadow. As I was reading, I was “ arguing” with that premise - vehemently! Until I realised that I had just proved their point on that very thing. When you speak of levels of integration, I think that it’s when you can accept and laugh at your foibles, while working at “managing” the effects, that serves that process of integration. Your description of PM Carney in that regard is spot on, and I think answers the question of how to describe this incredible man - that I think many people might struggle with. Loved it! Thank you

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